Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences

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NYU Press, 2005 - Social Science - 295 pages

Nervous, inexperienced, confused. For most, losing your virginity is one of life's most significant moments, always to be remembered. Of course, experiences vary, but Laura Carpenter asks: Is there an ideal way to lose it? What would constitute a “positive” experience? What often compels the big step? And, further, what does “going all the way” really mean for young gays and lesbians?
In this first comprehensive study of virginity loss, Carpenter teases out the complexities of all things virgin by drawing on interviews with both young men and women who are straight, gay or bisexual. Virginity Lost offers a rare window into one of life's most intimate and significant sexual moments. The stories here are frank, poignant and fascinating as Carpenter presents an array of experiences that run the gamut from triumphant to devastating.

Importantly, Carpenter argues that one's experience of virginity loss can have a powerful impact on one's later sexual experiences. Especially at a time of increased debate about sexual abstinence versus safe sex education in public schools, this important volume will provide essential information about the sex lives of young people.

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Contents

Defining Virginity Loss Today
44
A Gift of Ones Own
57
An Unendurable Stigma
101
A Natural Step
141
Abstinence
178
Virginity Lost
194
Methodological Appendix
209
Age Sexual Race Social
212
Where Current Family Status Interp Current
213
Age Sexual Race Social
214
Where Current Family Status Interp Current
215
Notes
217
Bibliography
255
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Page 182 - ... abstinence from sexual activity is the only certain way to avoid outof-wedlock pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and other associated health problems; (D) teaches that a mutually faithful monogamous relationship in the context of marriage is the expected standard of human sexual activity; (E) teaches that sexual activity outside of the context of marriage is likely to have harmful psychological and physical effects...
Page 183 - Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my friends, my future mate and my future children to be sexually abstinent from this day, until the day I enter a Biblical marriage relationship.
Page 181 - For purposes of this section, the term "abstinence education" means an educational or motivational program which — (A) has as its exclusive purpose, teaching the social, psychological, and health gains to be realized by abstaining from sexual activity; (B) teaches abstinence from sexual activity outside marriage as the expected standard for all school age children...
Page 195 - a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being related to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled.
Page 182 - Teaches that bearing children out-of-wedlock is likely to have harmful consequences for the child, the child's parents, and society G. Teaches young people how to reject sexual advances and how alcohol and drug use increase vulnerability to sexual advances H.
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Page 24 - ... monsters of seduction from the earth. Oh my dear girls - for to such only am I writing - listen not to the voice of love, unless sanctioned by paternal approbation: be assured, it is now past the days of romance: no woman can be run away with contrary to her own inclination: then kneel down each morning, and request kind heaven to keep you free from temptation, or, should it please to suffer you to be tried, pray for fortitude to resist the impulse of inclination when it runs counter to the precepts...

About the author (2005)

Laura M. Carpenter is Associate Professor of Sociology at Vanderbilt University and author of Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences.

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